hookup

So as I'm sitting here trying to avoid doing all kinds of homework I think back to my evening last night. Thye guy I was hooking up with all last semester deleted me on facebook. At first, I was pissed. We were "together," if you want to call it that, for months. He came to my sorority's formal and I went to his frats parties with him. How could I be so rudely excluded from unprecedented access to his facebook profile? I say it's because a hookup in college sometimes becomes an awkward memory, with emotions attached. As a young man, the guy in question obviously didn't connect our physical attraction to his emotions, thus showing how "relationships" in college are very different from those of previous experiences. In order to have a committed relationship, both parties need to have a say, otherwise you fall into that awkward were-just-hooking-up-but-i'm-not-really-sure-if we're-together phase.

This is the epitome of pointless. I did my time in that awkward position. It is just that: AWKWARD. Especially when you unexpectedky run into your prior hookup or see them in the daylight. Do you hug them, high five, hand shake, kiss, wave, or just ignore them? What if they're embarrassed to see you? What if they embarrass you? Was your hookup wanted or unwanted? Did you want to make it a relationship? Would they even consider it?

This is the enigma of college relationships.

think about it, ck

Side note: If you have been raped, sexually abused/assaulted, or otherwise, I advise you, or your "friend", to seek consultation. I have been sexually abused, and no one deserves this. It is not your fault. No matter how you cope, please consider contacting your university's sexual abuse resources. [RAINN: Rape, abuse, and incest national network]